I know I ask for prayer a lot. I don’t see a problem with that though. This time though, I feel much stronger about it.
For the past 5 years my brother has been dating/engaged to a woman who has 2 kids. Her oldest is a 12 year old boy. He has Asperger’s (a form of autism). He’s incredibly smart but he also doesn’t understand the social norms that a 12 year old should get. He’s an amazing kid. For those who don’t know him, they think he’s weird. Going in public with him means that you get a lot of stares. Part of that is because he’s a bit of an oddball (in a good way) but also as a 12 year old, he’s at least 5’4”. It’s a little odd being 4’11” and trying to herd a massive 12 year old around that really just a big kid.
He’s truly my kind of kid. He has a passion for science and knowledge. He loves video games and can rattle of the history of pretty much anything. He’s absolutely adorable. There’s a problem though.
Whether it’s pre-teen hormones or Asperger’s and realizing that he’s different, he’s going through a horrible stage of depression. And it’s even worse because he’s bullied. There was one instance where the bus driver dropped the kids off at the school and the doors were still locked. There was no adult supervision. Several other students ganged up on him and pushed him down without allowing him to get up. When he finally got up, he pushed one back. The result? In school suspension for him and no punishment for any other student.
I just learned that he has been writing extremely dark things. These things include torturing people and death. I also found out that he was molested when he was younger and his drug/alcohol addict grandmother continues to bring it up to him. A few days before the last day of this past semester, several students told him that the world was better off if he were dead. No one would have to deal with him and his weirdness. He attempted to jump out of a 2nd story window at school.
A 12 year old attempting to kill himself because of cruel and heartless kids. It kills me that he gets bullied this much. They did get him enrolled at a more rigorous middle school that has many kids like him. Hopefully the bullying stops. He’s a different kid but he’s one special kid. He doesn’t understand the social norms so yes, he’s loud. He’s in your face. He constantly talks about how things work. He makes a point that rules should be followed. He rags and rags on his mom about how smoking and excessive drinking is bad and he’ll tell you all about the changes your body will see. He despises cussing even though his mom cusses worse than a sailor. He’s the world’s worst loser (we had an argument over Uno once in which he tried to claim that I cheated so he wouldn’t have to draw 4 cards. We’re both very competitive). But he’s one amazing kid. It took me 4 years to connect with him. It took 3 years for him to learn my name. He has just recently started hugging me. This kiddo is the most amazing boy in my life.
As far as I know, he doesn’t know Christ. He’s only been to church a few times and raised his hand at ever call that he’d ever heard. He’s innocent enough but he doesn’t know Christ. He’s a stickler about prayer before dinner but he doesn’t know Christ like he could or should. My brother has backslid from the faith he was raised in and his fiance is far from being a Christian. The only influence in his life is myself and my parents.
He needs Christ and he needs prayer. No 12 year old boy should be depressed like he is. No boy his age should be writing stories that he does and attempting to kill himself. Please prayer for him and that things will turn around for him.